Petra and I do our best to be a support team as we go through life. I think it really helps us that we are willing to be as interchangeable as possible.This is not possible for most couples at work. Even we aren't when we work outside the Equestrian world, but at home it is very possible for almost everyone!
We all have our strengths, talents, and things we enjoy. That should not change , but it really helps that both of us are not only willing to clean the bathroom, do the laundry, cook dinner, change Emma Grace, respond to e-mails , and whatever else we need to do.Both people have to really want to have this kind of relationship, and it is not for everyone, but I think it really works for us. The better we get at it the closer we become. In fact I would say it is the most important thing for us after the love we have for each other and the kids, and our ability to communicate in a honest and positive manner.
It can give you a great feeling to surprise your mate by doing a chore that neither of you enjoy,out of the blue! By getting something taken care of when you know it might be what they usually do ,but their day is full and so you take care of it. Is there any better feeling when someone shows you there love buy making you a special meal or snack, planning something fun for the family or letting you get that extra hour of sleep when you desperately need it? I don't think so!!!
The better we get at it our lives are richer , our love for each other grows deeper and stronger. So think about it and if it sounds good to you talk about it in a positive way with that special that person in your life and give it a try. You can't be too critical if they burn the soup the first time or shrink your sweeter by accident or miss a spot when cleaning.
When talking about things try and use the sandwich method, positive- constructive comment-positive. It might go something like this." Wow you cleaned the BATHROOM!!! that's great!Next time it might be easier for you if you... I am so lucky to have some one in my life who loves me so much they would share this responsibility with me". So don't be afraid to give it a try. Many times we use mirror imaging more that we realize and we see someone do... so we do... So set the good example for everyone in your life. You will be pleased with the results.
I have no specific training in this area. I just want to help others by sharing what the things that work for us.. If you are having real trouble in any given area of life it is always wise to seek counsel from someone who has training ,education, life experience and has had success in that area which qualifies them to be a helpful trust worthy professional.
Sincerly,
John
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